Higher Vibes Coaching Blog
These posts were written for leaders who seek coaching and coaches working at the intersection of identity, trauma, and recovery.
Welcome to the Blog
Didn’t Do Your Coaching “Homework”? Why That’s the Best Time to Show Up.
Didn’t follow through on your coaching action plan? That moment isn’t failure—discover how reframing that changes everything to help you move forward. Showing up anyway builds real confidence, sharpens self-trust, and helps you create strategies that actually work in your life—not just on paper.
Your Best Employees Have Side Hustles. That’s the Point.
Dear recruiters and hiring managers, side hustles aren’t a red flag—they’re a power move. People with lives outside work think more sharply, burn out less, and don’t play office politics. If your team needs extra income, that’s a pay issue—not a loyalty problem.
The Hidden Cycle: How Abused Mothers Harm Their Children
When abused mothers lose control of their own lives, they often reclaim it through strict parenting, emotional manipulation, or overprotection—continuing a cycle of trauma. Explore how domestic abuse impacts moms, the hidden costs on children, and how to start to break free from generational patterns of control.
How to Shut Down Unsolicited Advice and Micromanagement with Confidence
Some people believe they have the right to tell others what to do, but their need for control doesn’t mean you have to give in. Learn how to recognize and respond to unsolicited advice and micromanagement with direct, confident strategies that help you reclaim your autonomy and set clear boundaries—without unnecessary conflict.
Workplace Bullying and the Nervous System: How to Respond Without Losing Yourself
Workplace bullying isn't about power — it's about a dysregulated person offloading their panic onto you. Learn why bullies target confident people, what chronic exposure does to your nervous system, and how to fight back without losing yourself.
When People Quietly Root Against You — Use the STAND Method
Ever notice who softens when you rise—but leans in when you fall? That’s not random. It’s Schadenfreude. Learn the S.T.A.N.D. Method to protect your energy, stay grounded in your reality, and handle it in real time—with exact phrases that shut it down without pulling you into the drama.
The R.A.C.E. Boundary Method: How to Set Boundaries Without Guilt or Burnout
Discover the Receive–Ask–Choose–Express (R.A.C.E.) method to set boundaries without guilt or burnout. A trauma-informed framework built for ADHD and autistic folks, BIPOC professionals, and recovering people-pleasers who want clarity and sustainable connection.
Read This if People Don’t “Hear” What You Have to Say
This is a practical guide for anyone tired of being talked over or ignored. It’s especially for you if anxiety, trauma, bullying, culture, or neurodivergence have minimized your voice. Here’s a step-by-step way to bring your voice back online—gently, clearly, and on your terms. These steps aren’t about being louder — they’re about feeling safe and confident enough that your voice doesn’t have to hide.
Getting the ADA Accommodations You Deserve as a Neurodivergent or Disabled Professional
Workplace accommodations shouldn’t be a fight, but for many neurodivergent and disabled employees, the process is confusing, draining, and often mishandled by employers. This article explains your ADA rights, the true meaning of the interactive process, and how to advocate for yourself without oversharing medical information. You’ll learn how to document delays, build allies, and stay grounded — even if you’re facing discrimination, retaliation, or systemic resistance.
Anger Isn’t the Enemy — It’s the Alarm
Anger isn’t the enemy — disconnection is. Learn how DBT tools like HALT can help you manage anger mindfully, transforming emotional chaos into clarity and compassionate leadership.
Stop Asking Me to Fit In: A Love Letter to the Brave Weirdos at Work
It takes courage to examine what “belonging” actually looks and feels like, so it becomes accessible to more people. Learn how relational leadership and brave authenticity transform workplaces into spaces of trust, repair, and innovation.
What Mamdani’s Win — and How Cuomo and Trump Reacted — Reveal About Power, Safety, and Change
As fear escalates under Trump’s second term, trauma-informed leadership offers an antidote. Through the lens of Zohran Mamdani’s historic NYC win, we explore how nervous-system awareness, regulation, and ethical power can transform fear-based leadership into connection-based change.
Performance Improvement Plans and Neurodivergent Employees
Performance Improvement Plans (PIPs) are the illusion of fairness. If you’re on one—or giving one—read this before you cause or endure more harm. This deep dive exposes how PIPs damage mental health, reinforce bias, and ignore ADA protections—and includes checklists for employees, managers, and HR. Plus, a glimpse at what comes next: the Human Development Plan.
High, Numb, or Healing? Rethinking Your Relationship with Weed
Weed can soothe, silence, or support you — depending on how you use it. Learn the science, spot your patterns, and find harm-reduction tools that help you heal.
Decolonizing the Coaching Industry: Power, Patriarchy, and the Myth of Neutrality
The coaching industry promises liberation—but too often reproduces colonial and patriarchal power. This article explores how neutrality, credential culture, and “professionalism” sustain dominance, and offers practical steps toward a decolonized coaching ecosystem built for everyone.
Neutrality Is Not Silence: How Coaches and Leaders Can Honor Identity, Inclusion, and Psychological Safety
Explore why “neutrality” in coaching and leadership often becomes a tool of erasure. This in-depth article reframes neutrality as emotional maturity—not avoidance—and offers new research, inclusive frameworks, and self-reflection tools to help leaders, coaches, and teams build real psychological safety.
Using Genograms To Understand Generational Trauma
“Just live with it” isn’t resilience—it’s survival passed down as strength. This article explores how generational trauma becomes identity, and how coaches can use genograms to trace emotional inheritance, unmet needs, and patterns of silence. By mapping family systems with empathy and boundaries, trauma-informed practitioners help clients replace endurance with connection, creating space for self-trust and intergenerational healing.
The ADHD / AuDHD Recovery Loop: Why You Burn Out After Every Comeback
ADHD burnout isn’t just exhaustion — it’s chemistry, culture, and chaos colliding. This deep dive unpacks how ADHD and AuDHD brains self-medicate with stimulants and sedatives: caffeine, Adderall, nicotine, THC, alcohol, and anti-anxiety meds. Discover why dopamine spikes, sensory overload, and masking create a perfect storm of overdrive and collapse. You’ll learn how the ADHD recovery loop really works — from hyperfocus highs to emotional hangovers — and why it’s not addiction but adaptation.
Before You Hire a Coach: How Their Background Shapes Your Care
Not all coaches are built the same. This guide unpacks how a coach’s background — HR, therapy, sales, or spirituality — shapes the care they offer. Learn how to spot performative empathy, evaluate training, and choose a trauma-informed coach who honors your nervous system and your boundaries.
Coaching’s Empathy Problem: How Performance Culture Hijacked Presence
Many coaches talk about empathy—but few embody it. This essay exposes how performative empathy, toxic positivity, and the pressure to “look caring” are re-traumatizing clients and burning out practitioners. Learn the neuroscience behind real attunement, how false empathy activates the brain’s pain pathways, and five embodied practices to rebuild authentic presence in your coaching work.